The way we pay bills, stream movies, order food, even socialize with friends it's all done online! Logically it makes sense if you are a busy person or coming out of a pandemic and still weary about spontaneously going out to use dating apps to find the love of your life!
Dating apps gives you the ability to meet a large pool of people who you otherwise wouldn't meet by staying glued to your home office chair. Online dating has turned into a damn near war zone. Online dating should start to come with a refree. A non bias mediator who can blow the whistle on unnecessary lies, negative energy, or toxic behaviors. If you are not properly prepared you can find yourself in hot water with Mr. or Miss. Wrong. . Here are a list of warning signs you may want to spot early if you want to have a great online dating experience.
1.The overuse of filters
There is nothing wrong with using filters to enhance your looks, but remember eventually you will have to physically meet people and there will be no filter!
2. Staged Photos
Photos look so good, they should come with a director and a camera crew. Does his /her day really consist of you driving a different exotic car or drinking tea surrounded by flower pedals every morning? It is better to fall in love with what the person does daily vs once in a blue.
3. Inability to deal with their own trust issues.
"I have serious trust issues" That's a huge flag on the play! There is no reason for your potential partner to be on trial for crimes they did not commit. The person who did hurt you is running around Scott free hurting someone else.
4. Recently getting out of a toxic relationship
One must ask themselves should they even be looking to get into another relationship. A person who just escaped a toxic relationship needs to time to heal and reflect on the toxic experience they just went through. Get use to the idea of being comfortably alone. Figure out the role you played and your own toxic contribution.
5. The Inability to be vulnerable.
Following social norms and traditions may run you the risk of entering an unnecessary game of chess. You make moves to protect your heart and needing to be two steps ahead of your potential partner at all times. Trust issues and insecurities are minimized when you are able to heal your inner child. A journey of self-healing will ensure the development of healthy boundaries. You will gain more confidence within your dating experience.
6. Be wary of the time spent of dating apps
Rejection and continuous mixing of energies does something to the psyche. You can quickly find yourself becoming desperate and willing to settle for less.
Online dating can be a treacherous experience, but if you actively work on yourself the love of your life may be one swipe away!
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